Fireworks with Females Review
November 19, 2008 | Leave a Comment
The Fireworks with Females is an ultimate guide for men who are, for some reason, having trouble in getting the girl of their dreams. This book is not intended for those men who are often times labeled as “geeks”. But to those, who at a glance appeared conventional but sorely lacking serious relationships, or worst do not even have the “it” to attract high-value women.
The Fireworks with Females was the result of a collaborative work of a man who happened to see and experience the difference between men who effortlessly gel with women (his college friends), and men who seemingly run a sweet life but, despite the fact that great women are just around the corner, were terrible when it comes to their dating life (his new friends) – Slade Shaw; and a woman who willingly contributed her female perception, based on her years of experience as a professional dating coach – Mirabelle Summers of the website MeetYourSweet.com. Both hungry for knowledge and passionate about the ‘science of attraction’.
The Fireworks with Females is not about changing your personality to attract women. It’s not going to force you to morph into someone you are not. This book will help you do a little tweaking on manly characteristics that you’ve already got – but just don’t know it… yet.
The Fireworks with Females includes the following topics:
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Attraction from the inside out.
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The knowledge you need to escalate to the next level.
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How to communicate with women.
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Female psychology.
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How to make a relationship last. And a lot more.
What’s good about this book is that it thoroughly explains each and every section. The book literally covers everything, it guides you by the hand – step by step on what to do, what characteristics to tweak, how to act, what to say, what to know about women, and even what not to expect during the process of transformation.
I personally liked the exercises included in this book, what the author called: ‘the actionable attraction challenge’. These exercises will help you – appreciate yourself more, acknowledge and eventually let go of those negative thoughts, believe on what you want to achieve, demonstrate value in front of women, have a life of your own, and develop an ability to open a conversation.
The book is absolutely perfect, very smooth to read. But I think a simple quiz on each section will make it more interactive. This will gauge the reader’s own perspective before reading the section, and see the how does the section affect his perception in life after he read the entire topic.
The Fireworks with Females is definitely worth-reading. The authors’ advice are perfect and timely. The book offers a brand new approach for self improvement, thus giving you the competence to empower your actions towards getting the girl of your dreams and at the same time living your life to its fullest.
And I quote, from the book:
“… there are plenty of very simple things that you can do with yourself and in your life, which, by the very act of doing them, begin to create MAGICAL CHANGES in your life and with the women that you attract…”
The big question is, are you following the right guide? Are these guides can actually create magical changes into your life? If you are man enough to accept what you truly lack and ready to face a new challenge in your life to better your situation when it comes to your relationship and attracting high-value women… the Fireworks with Females is certainly the right guide!
Thoughts to dig in:
Thinking Big – “What you conceive of, you can achieve”.
The Law of Attraction – “What you appreciate, appreciates”.
The author is having a special right now where he is giving a free 6 part mini-course. To see it click here.
Dwelling on Past Mistakes Won’t Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
November 18, 2008 | 1 Comment
Dear Candice,
I broke up with my ex a couple of months ago because he cheated on me. Until now, he’s trying to win me back. I still love him and desperately want him back too. But what if he cheats on me again? Is it right to give our relationship a second chance? – Toni (Los Angeles, CA)
Dear Toni,
Don’t let your past hold you back. If you’re sure that you want to get together again with your ex boyfriend, just do it. Stop worrying about what happened before. Focus on what comes next. After all, rebuilding a relationship is about thinking forward, so it doesn’t make sense to linger in the past.
That viewpoint may seem contrary to what common sense would suggest. You often think that you need to dissect the past in order to figure out what went wrong. Further, you also think that the past information give you the right clues to prevent another break up after reuniting with your ex. Furthermore, you think that a full accounting of the past will better your position to do what it takes to get your ex boyfriend back.
The truth is, you don’t need to become some sort of weird relationship forensic examiner to get your man back in your life. In fact, that kind of focus on the past will do nothing but to hinder you from achieving want you want – and that is to get your ex back.
The more you focus on past missteps and problems, the more it leads you to a counterproductive problem/solution mindset. Instead of focusing on the big picture factors that can actually bring a man back into your life, you may find yourself trying to devise little systems by which to solve a series of relatively minor problems. Your time could be better spent elsewhere and most of the solutions you devise are probably inconsistent with the realities of your personality.
Being bogged down in little details and thoughts of the past will prevent you from taking necessary and sound action. Remember ‘paralysis by analysis’? Yes, of course you do, that’s what happens if you keep dwelling on the past.
Perhaps, the real reason why you broke up in the first place has very little to do with the discrete problems you’ll dig up and over-analyze. Break ups usually stem from a multiplicity of factors that combine to create a certain situations under a particular set of circumstances. So, do not waste your time.
Why not put it this way? Bury that past and move forward. While history can provide you with some valuable information, you are not governed by it.
If you’ve decided to get your ex boyfriend back, it doesn’t really matter why you broke up. What matters now is what you’re going to do to get back together. That is where your focus should really be on – taking the actions necessary to create a great future.
For you to successfully revive and improve the relationship, you need to get going and stop dredging up bad memories and ripping off emotional scabs. Focus on your efforts to take actions to make the relationship work. Most of the time, people who get bogged down in the past aspects of their relationships have the hardest time when it comes to rebuilding a relationship after the break up. And those people, who have quickly realized that it’s high time to take action and let those sleeping dogs lay, are more successful.
Again, rebuilding a relationship is a forward-thinking affair and getting stuck on past trials and tribulations can only complicate the process unnecessarily. If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, there’s really no reason to dwell on past mistakes.
Although Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back Involves Some Strategy, It Is Not A Game
November 17, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Last week, I’ve posted a blog about getting your ex boyfriend back without the silliness. That post was intended to answer Jaz query. Here’s another post to further disclose how acting silly can ruin your chances to get your ex boyfriend back. This is for you Jaz and to all the women who share the same story.
Getting your ex boyfriend back in your life is certainly possible, if you take the right approach. And from my own experience, using that right approach is the only way you can get your ex back for good. Relying on cheap tricks or gimmicks, all those crazy behavior… to get him back, won’t make the reunion last for long. More often than not, they might be good for one night, but they are meaningless for anything that matters.
Many people are out there willing to give a great deal of advice about how to rebuild relationships after they go through break ups. Some of it is legitimate, rock-solid perspective about how to approach a difficult situation in a smart and honest way.
And yes… some of it, however, is nothing more than a recitation of mind games that would abuse your ex boyfriend while demeaning yourself. Such as exploiting your ex’s weaknesses or setting up a bogus jealousy or farfetched lies. Exploiting his weaknesses isn’t a recipe for lasting love, it’s a sick parlor trick that won’t bring the two of you closer together. Also, setting a bogus jealousy trap isn’t a way to get your boyfriend back, it’s a way to hurt his feelings while selling out your own soul selfishly.
When you are in the course of getting your ex back, you’re dealing with your future and you’re handling human hearts and emotions – which happens to be yours and that of your ex. This is indeed a serious business, definitely not a time to be jaunty or tricky. Getting your ex boyfriend back after a break up does involve some strategy, but that doesn’t make it a game.
You don’t need to play games to get your ex boyfriend back. You can do it without taking morally shameful shortcomings. You can honestly do it, in a straightforward way that leaves your dignity intact. I should know… modesty aside, I have managed to get my ex back with character and pride. Yes, I did not get it right the first time. Just like you, I have put up myself into a disgraceful situation to get my ex back. And I won’t let that happen to you.
Enough of those, there are too many women already who have made a scandalous remark on themselves under the mistaken belief that certain strategies make them more appealing to men. I’m talking about those who rely on cleavage or short skirts to attract the interest of their ex. This is not a time to try to be extra seductive. You can do that after the two of you are together! This is a time to build a strong underlying basis from which you can grow your relationship, thus relying on such tricks won’t make a difference.
Do you really want him back? If so, then make your best effort. I wish you all of the best. But please, do it the right way. You want him back, but you also want to be proud of yourself. Hearts are precious and love is special. They are not game pieces and they should be treated with the very utmost in respect.
If you want to rebuild your relationship into something meaningful, you’ll need an honest foundation and a true understanding of one another. Approaching making up like a game simply can’t provide that. Getting your ex back without the silliness and a good approach is absolutely the strategy that will surely work. It is far much better than messing around with stunts and tricks.
Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back Can Be An Empowering Act
November 14, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Dear Candice,
I started dating this guy three months ago. Our relationship went well over a couple of months. But all of a sudden, he seems to be not interested anymore. He’s not returning my calls. And now, he totally pulled away. I want to get him back but I don’t have all the guts of doing so. I’m not conservative but i guess not that too liberated as well. I don’t know what to do now. Need help. - Karla (San Francisco, CA)
Dear Karla,
It is true that trying to convince a man to rebuild a broken relationship or even the idea of a woman going after a man, might seem unusual with our more feminist instincts. It is something like a gal bending over backwards for a guy that rubs a lot of us the wrong way, there is really something about this notion. Chasing after your ex boyfriend might seem a little inconsistent with what you usually consider liberating or empowering behavior.
You are in doubt because you probably do not know yet your reasons for getting him back. If you’re afteryour ex because you’re afraid to be without a man or because you feel like you simply must have that security blanket of a boyfriend, the criticisms do hold some weight. In reality, though, getting your ex boyfriend back in your life can be an empowering act. It’s all a matter of motivation.
It is indeed an empowering act if your reason to get him back is that you believe that the two of you are good together. Getting your ex back can also be emporing if you want to get him back because you have decided that you don’t need to be fate’s doormat. Getting your ex back can be an impressive display or emotional strength and determination, worthy of respect and adoration.
There’s nothing positive or strong about being sad, moping, and accepting the loss of something that you could get back if you wanted to do so. If you really want to get your ex boyfriend back, there’s nothing more smart and liberating than taking action. Take action to solve the undesirable break up.
Women who take action to get their guys back share a few things in common. They have the guts to take a difficult situation along the way. They have the power of their convictions and demonstrate a willingness to take a stand for something that really matters to them. They challenge the conventional idea of the “weak girl”, thus demonstrating that their action-oriented approach is a powerful way of reaching their goals.
Those things sound empowering to me. If you think about it, it’s probably one of the more empowering things a woman can do. And you can do this too Karla, for your own happiness and for the man that is worth fighting for.
You see, it isn’t so much a matter of “chasing after a guy” or trying to do whatever it takes to appeal to a man. When you consider the context and the stakes, it seems silly to worry if you’re reinforcing some sort of societal perspective about the nature of relationships. What really matters is making yourself happy. That might just involve doing what it takes to get back together. Remember, this is about love and your future.
If you want your ex boyfriend back, go get him. Rebuilding the relationship is cetainly not that easy, but possible… undoubtedly by meaningful and empowering actions. If the only thing stopping you from going after your ex is some vague sense that you’d be selling yourself out or humiliating yourself by chasing a guy, you must think again. This could be the kind of bold move generally reserved for the strongest people.
Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Without The Silliness
November 13, 2008 | 1 Comment
Dear Candice,
I’ve been planning my moves to get my ex boyfriend back. I actually bought a new wardrobe to somewhat change how I look. I’m also planning to change my hairstyle and get into bowling because I’ve heard from his friends that he’s into bowling nowadays. Are these the right ways to get my ex boyfriend back? – Jaz (Asheville, N Carolina)
Dear Jaz,
I understand what you are up to and I’ve seen it myself. Some women who decided to get their ex boyfriends back is amazing. And thinking how far these women can go to win their ex boyfriends back is even more amazing, and yes… silly. In fact, I’ve been there. A couple break ups and I decided to rebuild the relationship. I’ve embarked on a journey to get my man back that involves all sorts of certainly crazy behavior.
Now, let me tell you my story to help you settle the matter. At one point, I’ve decided to change my looks after a breakup. My brunette-head suddenly turned into platinum blond with a new haircut. Thanks to my stylist and the tanning salon. I also seriously became a bird who barely eats in an effort to lose a few pounds from being an athletic person with a normal appetite. I knew for a fact that I look strange and uncomfortable in my own skin then. But I’ve fooled no one.
All at once, I tried to change my personality. I became submissive, accommodating and sugary sweet whenever my ex boyfriend is within a half-mile. I’ve totally shifted my interests, and my behavior changes radically. My friends told me that they can actually see right through the bogus attempt to reinvent myself, but I didn’t care at all. And guess what?, my ex boyfriend didn’t care too. I’ve fooled no one.
After the break up I started wearing miniskirts and skin-tight tops to get my ex boyfriend’s attention. I’ve made a few heads turn, but not my ex boyfriend. He was not interested at all. Added to that, I’ve put up fake jealousy traps. I lied, plot a story and told everybody farfetched stories.
They’re all intended to revive my relationship, but as far as I can recall, they’ve done nothing but drove a wedge between me and my ex boyfriend. I’ve tried to maneuver things to get him back. But, none of it worked. I knew some people who are lucky and were able to get their man back using those crazy methods, but it was just a temporary fix and another break up followed very quickly.
It’s no way to get a boyfriend back, is it?
The only strategy that really makes sense is one based on decency, honesty, trust and sincerity. It might not be as alluring and it may not have little tricks or built-in short cuts, but it works. In fact, it works much better than going nuts in a foolish attempt to recreate key aspects of your life and personality!
I’ve realized my mistakes. I’ve learned from it, unfortunately, the hard way. Getting your man back without the silliness will allow you to get through the break up and back into the relationship with your dignity and pride intact. Most importantly, perhaps, it works. Not just in the short run, but over the long haul, too. Getting your ex back honestly lays a solid foundation from which the renewed relationship can grow and prosper.
If you love him and you want him back you can get the job done without the silliness. Don’t think about dying your hair, inventing lies or trying to pretend that you’re someone you are not. Getting your ex boyfriend back without the silliness works. It sure is!
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