Break Ups Are Optional – Yes It Is!
December 15, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Dear Candice,
I’ve been reading your posts and you often times said that ‘break ups are optional’ and ‘break ups don’t need to be permanent’… I know for a fact that rebuilding a relationship is difficult, I’ve tried rebuilding one once. I would love to try again. But how can I make it right this time? Is it really optional? – Dolores (Saint Louis, Missouri)
Dear Dolores,
Many women experience unwanted break ups and mistakenly believe that they must live with the results. It happens way too often. Many women, including myself and my bestfriend, simply accept the fact that the relationship ended. We did not do anything to fight for what we know to be right. We’ll never know how many potentially amazing and wonderful relationships have died in unnecessary break ups.
Break ups are optional? I was once skeptic too. But I’ve thought about the evidence out there, that we don’t really have to break up if we don’t want to do so. There are, in fact, wonderful relationships that went through tough times too. Those relationships became strong relationships.
Do you know a couple with great long-term relationships? If so, dig about their history. You might be surprised to find out that many of those great relationships went “on the rocks” at one point or another. Those relationships have experienced full and all-out break ups too.
And if you dig more, you’ll be able to know that there’s only one secret why they have such great relationship — They thrive to survive until today! What does that mean to you? It seems like pretty solid evidence that it is possible to get your ex boyfriend back and to start rebuilding your relationship. Others have done it already. For sure, more and more will do it in the future.
And this one is a breakthrough – only one person took action and did just that. One person who was so determined to get an ex back. You can do that for your relationship.
We should also consider the expert analysis that’s been poured into this topic over the years. Experts in human behavior, psychology and relationships have noted that it is possible to take particular actions that will result in an increased likelihood of getting back together with an ex.
These relationship gurus have compiled their proven techniques into detailed blueprints anyone can use to get an ex boyfriend back. The idea that you have to just accept the end of a relationship in which you believe just doesn’t make much sense in light of that. Just read what others have said about using these plans to successfully reignite the flames of passion. These strategies are proven and they help people get back together with exes every single day.
Bottom line is, break ups really are optional when you have the right information. If you want to be together, and your heart echoes that sentiment, listen to your heart and just make it happen. You can get your ex boyfriend back. In the final analysis, break ups are optional – yes it is!
Prepare Yourself Before Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back
December 12, 2008 | 1 Comment
Dear Candice,
Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago and I still can’t stop thinking about him, it’s driving me crazy. I still love him so much. I’ve tried to get her out of my mind but I can’t because I’m still hoping that we can still get back with each other. Will it be easy to do it? What do I need to do before getting him back? – Brianna
Dear Brianna,
Getting your boyfriend back after a break up is a situation that can be handled correctly. But this is not possible without the use of the right approach and strategy to rebuild the relationship. There’s a comprehensive blueprint available that you can actually follow to secure your ex again. However, there are few things that you’ll need to take before you start trying out various approaches to get your ex boyfriend back.
What you need to do is to prepare yourself. Preparedness and willingness to take action is the critical first step to getting back together with your ex. Let me tell you that a lot of potentially fantastic relationship have died in unnecessary break ups. This is because neither of involved failed to take action. No one stepped forward. They have their own reasons: fear, pride, exhaustion or something else. Without them realizing that the failure to act doomed their partnership.
Now, the question is… how? First, you’ll need to commit yourself to your goal wholeheartedly. You’ll need to do some soul-searching and make sure that you want him back in your life and you’ll then want to follow that up with finding the motivation necessary to take consistent, serious action. Once you have done that, you can move on to the second prerequisite to getting your man back — a plan.
What sort of plan? You will need a good plan that is indispensable as you work to revive your relationship. If you operate purely on hunches, guesswork and a “fly by the night” mindset of yours, it will be exceedingly difficult to get him back. Rebuilding a relationship requires more than just a willingness to act, it requires the right actions, too. A good plan will provide you an outlet for the action while giving you the confidence that will help inspire to do even more action.
Good thing is, there’s no reason to fly blind on this one. There are relationship experts and gurus who, in their own lives, have made it work and figured out what makes relationships thump. They know the tricks and approaches that can take almost any couple from breaking up to making up in short order. They’ve compiled some wonderful resources that you can use as a blueprint for winning your ex boyfriend back.
Preparedness will put you in an excellent position to re-initiate your relationship. So, before making a phone call and before you even smile in his direction, you need to have these, seriously — commitment and a plan. You need a complete willingness and preparedness to take action and commit to it. And a good plan, to help direct that action.
When Is The Best Time To Act To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back?
December 11, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Dear Candice,
Just broke up with my ex. Now, I want him back. But I’m really uncomfortable to make a move right now. Shall I wait? How long? Weeks? Months? When is the best time to get an ex back? – Penelope Lovebottom.
Dear Penelope,
Many women do wait. Just like you, they are uncomfortable. More often than not, they are afraid to take action to get their ex back. They wait until things “settle down” or until “everyone cools off”. That might make some ‘prima facie’ sense, but a lot can happen during that waiting and none of it improves the prospects of rebuilding a relationship.
If you want to get your boyfriend back, the best time to act is now. Delay is a critical error. Those who wait to make a move to reunite with a lost love after a break up only damage their chances while increasing their suffering. If you are absolutely committed to the idea of getting him back in your life… now is time. Do not wait! Reasons?
Delay risks intervening complications. Every second you delay there is a chance that he will stumble upon a rebound woman who will make your life more difficult. That is one obvious complication, for instance, that can make it very difficult to get your man back. Your ability to get him back easily will be compromised considerably, when he starts to seriously date someone else. Depending on the nature of the relationship that develops, it might even persuade you to give up altogether. So, don’t wait any more.
Delay extends the agony. You definitely want him back. Of course, we can only assume that means you want him back as soon as possible. Now, there is nothing more logical than this — why wait when you know that every single day the two of you remain apart will be filled with worries, disappointment and suffering. So what you need to do is to act as quickly as you possibly can to begin rebuilding the relationship. There is no advantage to stalling in hopes of things somehow becoming easier or more comfortable.
Recent involvement is an asset. The longer you wait, the more memories of your good times and potential as a couple will fade in his memory. You may want to strike while the iron is hot, so to speak. He was interested in maintaining a relationship with you until the recent break up. That means he isn’t yet far removed from having fond feelings for you. If you wait, you risk seeing some of that fondness disappears. Let me remind you — those who snooze really do tend to lose.
Now, I’m going to end this analysis with another little cliché. “Out of sight, out of mind”. Think about it. If you do have intentions to get your ex back, don’t go out of his sight and don’t stay there if you’ve already drifted away a little bit. All indicators point to the same conclusion. If you want your ex boyfriend back, you should take immediate action. Use a good plan and carry it out as soon as possible.
How Hard Is It To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
December 10, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Dear Candice,
I am currently in pursuit of my ex. Of course, it was hard to broke up with him. But what’s more harder is to convince him rebuild our relationship. What about making up? Why rebuilding a relationship after a break up difficult? – Dynah
Dear Dynah,
There are a lot of possible circumstances and answers to your questions. However, there are few general observations we can make about the difficulty involved in rebuilding a relationship. Those questions defy easy answers for the obvious reason that individual circumstances can be radically different. A sudden break up in a diversely healthy relationship, for instance, is a far cry from an extended period apart between two people who didn’t yet know each other that well.
You’ve experienced how hard it is to get your ex boyfriend back. But it probably isn’t as hard as you might think! In fact, it might be easier than you’d imagine.
Look, there’s no way around it. Getting back together with an ex is going to require some major effort. Something was happening that led the two of you quit. Your break up didn’t materialize magically out of thin air, even if it feels that way. Whatever that was, it will create a barrier you’ll need to bowled-over. You really can’t just hope to snap your fingers and have him back at your side again instantly. You definitely can’t get your ex back overnight. You might not even get him at your first try.
That is because the human heart and mind aren’t impossible to understand. And they are also complicated enough to defy magically quick solutions. Thus, putting forth an effort to get him back is what you need. This is bad news, but you do not need to worry though. Because good news comes in two-fold.
The first good news it that it won’t be as hard as you might think. As long as you’re willing to take action and to follow good advice, you can probably get your ex back much more quickly and with greater ease than you might imagine. The getting back together process is very time-consuming and difficult sometimes. However, it is relatively fast and painless for others. In almost all cases, though, it is possible.
The second good news is that the benefits of getting back together make the effort worthwhile. The time and energy you’ll spend can be the greatest personal investment of your life. The pay off is an enormous thing that it makes any level of effort completely worthwhile. If you believe in your heart that the two of you are special and that your relationship definitely deserves a second chance, the odds are that the advantages of being together will swamp the annoyances of getting over the break up.
So, how hard is it to get your boyfriend back? Will it be really hard? Perhaps, perhaps not. It will require some effort. Overall, though, it probably will be easier than you think and the advantages will make the process of getting your boyfriend back well worth your time and energy.
You May Not Succeed At First Try But You Can Still Get Him Back
December 9, 2008 | 1 Comment
Dear Candice,
I tried to win back my ex. A few weeks after our breakup I realized that breaking up with him is not good for both of us. So I tried to call him but didn’t get any response. So I then decided to send an email. I apologized and told him my intentions to fix the relationship and make up. He sent a note back: “I’m sorry, but no.” I just can’t let this happen, is there another way to win him back? – Karina
Dear Karina,
It might take some time and it will probably take some real effort to win him back. It’s easy to make an effort to get your ex back. However, you may not be able to get him back with a snap of the fingers.
Been through the situation. And it’s really hard to take “no” as an answer. The breakup has left me more than a little upset. But then, someone told me the good news – that I can still bring him back to my side if I really want to do so. Didn’t get it the first try. But then I tried again. Now, we’re back together. So here’s my advice – Try again.
Getting an ex boyfriend back isn’t that rare and it really isn’t that complicated. If you’re prepared to combine a will to take action with a smart plan to rebuild your relationship, it’s completely possible to make things right again.
Some women, after giving their first shot and did not get a good response, ended up waiting. Most of them mourn and they wish something else would happen. It is true that love can find a way, but it needs a little shove if it’s going to do so. Your willingness to take action is that shove. Your inaction will be the number one killer of your potentially wonderful relationship. Don’t just sit on your hands, take a stand for your love instead.
Some people are lucky enough to go from breaking up back to making up in the blink of an eye. Those people, however, are exceptions to the rule. In most cases, getting an ex boyfriend back is going to require some consistent effort and a bit of time. Sometimes, that first short phone call, email or visit is enough to bring you back together with him.
There can be a lot of setbacks. It might feel as though you aren’t making any progress. What are you supposed to do when you are pouring your heart into getting him back and nothing is working?
The general answer, which is applicable to almost every woman trying to get back together with an ex boyfriend is this – keep trying. However, the exact answer to that question will depend on individual circumstances of course.
You weren’t able to pull it off on the first day. You may even won’t succeed at the second or the third. But you will succeed if you’re using the right approach and are willing to keep pushing forward. You don’t need to accept your break up if you know it’s the wrong thing to do. You can keep plugging along until that great day when you finally get your boyfriend back for good. It can be the most challenging days of your life, but definitely worth trying.
If your relationship is meaningful to you and you believe that true love is at stake, you owe it to yourself to keep trying. You can’t just quit if you know in your heart that the two of you are meant to be with one another. You need to push past set backs and keep your eye on the goal of getting your boyfriend back.
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