A Different Approach Of Dealing With A Break Up

Dear Candice,

It’s been almost two weeks since I last heard of Tom, my ex-boyfriend. He broke up with me after that petty fight a couple of weeks ago. I spent those two weeks crying. But until now, I couldn’t sleep, eat, and perhaps even think right. I can’t stop thinking about him and hoping that the next time my phone rings, he’ll be on the other line. I don’t know what to do Candice. My relationship with Tom was one of the best things that has happened to me. Cyndi, a friend of mine, told me to let go and get my life back. But how can I do that? I can’t even picture my life without Tom around. – Sabrina, 24 (Brisbane, CA)

Dear Sabrina,

I honestly feel for you. Those emotions are normal if you’ve recently ended your relationship with your boyfriend and currently tormented by the break up. Perhaps you’re getting a lot of advice from an assortment of friends – like Cyndi, and from your loved ones and family members as well. More often than not, they want you to feel better and they’re trying to do that by expressing sympathy to comfort you.

Cyndi told you to let go, others probably have told you that break up happens to everyone, it happens for a reason, and the break up was meant to be. Or they will tell you to not worry. Just cry it out. The feeling will pass. Things will get easier… completely ignoring the fact that your heart is telling you that your relationship with Tom should continue.

It is okay to cry and to listen to those consoling phrases, however, the best thing to do is to assess your feelings and be certain on things that you want to happen. Here’s a different advice for you to consider… an idea that comes at the problem from a different perspective.

Stop mourning about the break up. Not by growing a thicker skin or by moving on… or even by accepting that the break up has happened, but by taking action and getting your ex boyfriend back.

Your friend might not lead you to this direction, but it is a viable alternative. If you feel like you and Tom deserve a second chance at love and you believe that the relationship is definitely worth saving, you don’t need to wait to feel better or to accept your fate lying down. You can take action and bring your Tom back into your life.

What it takes to get your ex back? A willingness to act, a little determination, and a good plan… that’s what it takes. You probably have the first two items, all you need now is a plan… yes, a good one! If you can assemble those ingredients, you can cook up a great strategy to bring your man back.

Couples break up and then they make up… this really happens and this could happen to you. There’s no reason to think that your situation can’t work out that way, too. You said that your relationship with your boyfriend was one of the best things that has happened to you… and if it surely is a best thing, you deserve to get it back. Listen to your heart instead of the cliched advice of others. You can do what it takes to get your man back.

If you really want to get your ex back, you definitely can do it. Get yourself together, take a deep breath, stand up, and dust yourself off. Now, go put your hands on a smart and proven guide that will show you a blueprint for getting your boyfriend back. Put it into place and move forward. Before you know it, you will have rebuilt your winning relationship.

Remember, you are a good person and you deserve good things. If your broken relationship was such a good thing… you definitely deserve to get it back!