Although Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back Involves Some Strategy, It Is Not A Game

November 17, 2008 | By Candice | In Advice, Breakup, Relationship 

Last week, I’ve posted a blog about getting your ex boyfriend back without the silliness. That post was intended to answer Jaz query. Here’s another post to further disclose how acting silly can ruin your chances to get your ex boyfriend back. This is for you Jaz and to all the women who share the same story.

Getting your ex boyfriend back in your life is certainly possible, if you take the right approach. And from my own experience, using that right approach is the only way you can get your ex back for good. Relying on cheap tricks or gimmicks, all those crazy behavior… to get him back, won’t make the reunion last for long. More often than not, they might be good for one night, but they are meaningless for anything that matters.

Many people are out there willing to give a great deal of advice about how to rebuild relationships after they go through break ups. Some of it is legitimate, rock-solid perspective about how to approach a difficult situation in a smart and honest way.

And yes… some of it, however, is nothing more than a recitation of mind games that would abuse your ex boyfriend while demeaning yourself. Such as exploiting your ex’s weaknesses or setting up a bogus jealousy or farfetched lies. Exploiting his weaknesses isn’t a recipe for lasting love, it’s a sick parlor trick that won’t bring the two of you closer together. Also, setting a bogus jealousy trap isn’t a way to get your boyfriend back, it’s a way to hurt his feelings while selling out your own soul selfishly.

When you are in the course of getting your ex back, you’re dealing with your future and you’re handling human hearts and emotions – which happens to be yours and that of your ex. This is indeed a serious business, definitely not a time to be jaunty or tricky. Getting your ex boyfriend back after a break up does involve some strategy, but that doesn’t make it a game.

You don’t need to play games to get your ex boyfriend back. You can do it without taking morally shameful shortcomings. You can honestly do it, in a straightforward way that leaves your dignity intact. I should know… modesty aside, I have managed to get my ex back with character and pride. Yes, I did not get it right the first time. Just like you, I have put up myself into a disgraceful situation to get my ex back. And I won’t let that happen to you.

Enough of those, there are too many women already who have made a scandalous remark on themselves under the mistaken belief that certain strategies make them more appealing to men. I’m talking about those who rely on cleavage or short skirts to attract the interest of their ex. This is not a time to try to be extra seductive. You can do that after the two of you are together! This is a time to build a strong underlying basis from which you can grow your relationship, thus relying on such tricks won’t make a difference.

Do you really want him back? If so, then make your best effort. I wish you all of the best. But please, do it the right way. You want him back, but you also want to be proud of yourself. Hearts are precious and love is special. They are not game pieces and they should be treated with the very utmost in respect.

If you want to rebuild your relationship into something meaningful, you’ll need an honest foundation and a true understanding of one another. Approaching making up like a game simply can’t provide that. Getting your ex back without the silliness and a good approach is absolutely the strategy that will surely work. It is far much better than messing around with stunts and tricks.

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