Break Ups Are Optional – Yes It Is!

Dear Candice,

I’ve been reading your posts and you often times said that ‘break ups are optional’ and ‘break ups don’t need to be permanent’… I know for a fact that rebuilding a relationship is difficult, I’ve tried rebuilding one once. I would love to try again. But how can I make it right this time? Is it really optional? – Dolores (Saint Louis, Missouri)

Dear Dolores,

Many women experience unwanted break ups and mistakenly believe that they must live with the results. It happens way too often. Many women, including myself and my bestfriend, simply accept the fact that the relationship ended. We did not do anything to fight for what we know to be right. We’ll never know how many potentially amazing and wonderful relationships have died in unnecessary break ups.

Break ups are optional? I was once skeptic too. But I’ve thought about the evidence out there, that we don’t really have to break up if we don’t want to do so. There are, in fact, wonderful relationships that went through tough times too. Those relationships became strong relationships.

Do you know a couple with great long-term relationships? If so, dig about their history. You might be surprised to find out that many of those great relationships went “on the rocks” at one point or another. Those relationships have experienced full and all-out break ups too.

And if you dig more, you’ll be able to know that there’s only one secret why they have such great relationship — They thrive to survive until today! What does that mean to you? It seems like pretty solid evidence that it is possible to get your ex boyfriend back and to start rebuilding your relationship. Others have done it already. For sure, more and more will do it in the future.

And this one is a breakthrough – only one person took action and did just that. One person who was so determined to get an ex back. You can do that for your relationship.

We should also consider the expert analysis that’s been poured into this topic over the years. Experts in human behavior, psychology and relationships have noted that it is possible to take particular actions that will result in an increased likelihood of getting back together with an ex.

These relationship gurus have compiled their proven techniques into detailed blueprints anyone can use to get an ex boyfriend back. The idea that you have to just accept the end of a relationship in which you believe just doesn’t make much sense in light of that. Just read what others have said about using these plans to successfully reignite the flames of passion. These strategies are proven and they help people get back together with exes every single day.

Bottom line is, break ups really are optional when you have the right information. If you want to be together, and your heart echoes that sentiment, listen to your heart and just make it happen. You can get your ex boyfriend back. In the final analysis, break ups are optional – yes it is!