Breaking Up Isn’t Necessarily Forever – Get Your Ex Back

October 28, 2008 | By Candice | In Advice, Breakup, Relationship 

Dear Candice,

My boyfriend for 2 years gave up on our relationship for some reasons that I can’t understand. I gave him the space that he needs and it’s been 3 months now. I really can’t understand how a person that you’ve loved so much for years can just dumped you just like that. I’m sad. And I want him back. I just don’t know if i can do it.  – Kristina, 25 (Los Angeles, CA)

Dear Kristina,

If you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, you certainly can do it. It’s fine to take a break from your relationship at one point. But it doesn’t need to be forever. It can be arduous to deal with your break up. But this break up can be temporary. In one way or another, dealing with the change in life circumstances is difficult. It is hard to deal with the disappointment and massive stew of emotions that inevitably tags along with parting ways situation.

Your break up is like a massive cloud, that looking for the silver lining can be really hard for you. When things are gray and dreary like this, everything looks a little ugly and it’s agitating to suddenly realize that a relationship you wanted to continue is now gone. Although these emotions are valid, it’s also completely unnecessary.

Yes what you are dealing right now is not necessary, you might doubt that proposition. You might be surrounded with people telling you that its just right to feel the hurt and there’s nothing you can do about that but to endure and accept. But I’m telling you right now that this is not the case. You might also feel as if you’re stuck in a new life that simply won’t involve your boyfriend anymore. Again, this is not the case. If you’re willing to consider it for a few moments, I can prove that break ups don’t need to be permanent.

Do me a favor, take a minute to reflect on the people you know who have successful relationships. Take an ample time to think of as many couples as you can. Now, go through that list. How many of those relationships experienced really turbulent times or significant difficulties at some point? How many of the people on your list broke up at one time or another, only to come back to one another later?

By doing this you’ll soon realize that almost every successful relationship had rough patches, and you are just like them. All of those people you know, who seem to have the most stable and wonderful romances, went through dreary and gray days. Just like what you’re going through right now. Those people that you know made a comeback. Their break ups weren’t permanent, they were only part of a process that has led to success. There’s certainly no reason whatsoever to think that you can’t have a similar success story in your life.

You said that you want your ex boyfriend back. If you do, you can make it happen. There are countless real-life examples that prove that point beyond any shadow of a doubt. There’s nothing so strange or outlandish about your situation that it somehow works under a different set of rules.

Break ups aren’t always permanent. In fact, you could go so far as to say that breaking up is basically optional. All it takes is one person, yes just one person, who wants to revive the relationship. If that person is willing to take appropriate action, absolutely saving the relationship is possible.

Now let me ask you once again? Do you really want your ex boyfriend back? If you do, it’s time to be the person who takes action. It’s time to find that silver lining, not matter how massive the cloud is, and to allow it to inspire you to do something. If you’re ready for that, it’s about time to get your man back.

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