How To Get Your Dream Girl and Keep Her For Good

February 17, 2010 | Leave a Comment

Dear Candice,

I’ve been in and out a few relationships. Lately I’ve been having dreams about a girl that I was really in love with a long time ago. My dream girl, she is. We never got together but we’re civil to each other until now. We don’t talk or see each other much but when we do, we get along really well. I thought I gave up on her a long time ago ‘cos she started dating some other guy. I think about her more often now. I wanted to tell her how I feel, but was scared to know that she doesn’t feel the same for me, or if she does, the relationship might not last long. So my question is… how to get your dream girl and keep her for good? – Oliver George from Texas


Dear Oliver,

If not all, most of us have someone that we dream of dating, cuddling and spending our time with. But not everyone has the chance to really get to meet and know very well that someone. It’s because most of us didn’t take the chance… often, we fear rejection. How can you possibly get your dream girl doesn’t involve how you treat women, but how you treat yourself, you got to be a real man.

Always look for something greater. Among the positive things about life, whether a situation is brought about by luck, fate or your past actions, you can always evolve to a better life. If you want to keep going, you certainly can, because there are plenty of levels to keep evolving to. Never stop dreaming and achieving for something greater than your life now.

Get rid of your ‘inner wussy’ . More often, inner wussy screws up your chances in getting the girl of your dream. You may need to take some time getting rid of it, because usually, it gets stuck and take away energy from you and going forward can be a lot difficult. Think about what benefits you can get by thinking like a wussy. Perhaps if you grumble about stuff it indicates you do not have to feel accountable for your life, which may feel good in the short-term. Or perhaps if you whine about how awful other people are will give you a slight feeling of being superior to others. Do yourself a favor, and get rid of this stuff. It will never serve you, and women don’t dig it.

Be responsible. If you wish to have a tremendous success with women as well as life, be someone who makes things happen. Be responsible in every thoughts and actions you make. And if you find yourself trying to get away and not taking responsibility for your decisions in life, take a pause and remind yourself that you are the one responsible for your own life. Particularly in those times when it’s fairly easy to put blame on somebody else. If you take responsibility for your very existence, you’ll be a much better person who can create the life you hope for in the process.

Keep in mind that you can only change yourself, not others. Focus on yourself, not women. “You can’t change other people, you can only change yourself…”  is one great adage that we can all can live for. Whenever things go south or you weren’t able to get what you want, your immediate thought is “this other person should change, or else..,”  this is not how you should think. If you really want to be a lot more successful with women, quit from wanting women to change for you, and rather start changing yourself. Once you do, you’ll also change your own point of view and your results.

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Pros and Cons of Internet Dating

January 13, 2010 | 1 Comment

Dear Candice,

I’m awfully a shy person. Going up to a guy and initiate communication is difficult for me. A few days ago I met someone on an Internet dating site, please give me some advice on this. Can this be a good start? Thanks – Marah


Dear Marah,

Given the frantic lifestyle most of us lead nowadays, finding the ideal partner can often prove to be virtually impossible, irrespective of whether or you’re a man or a woman. Because of this, Internet dating sites have become immensely popular, but of course just as with many things in life, you get good sites and bad sites. This is exactly why so many people stand to benefit from having a reliable singles websites guide; in that they can do much in terms of helping you avoid some of the more dubious singles websites one comes across on the internet.

The most important thing of all to remember when you’re considering signing up with singles websites is your own personal safety. Admittedly, the vast majority of people who frequent such websites are in the exact same position as you are, and they are also hoping to find the ideal partner, but of course, there’s also that small minority who join such websites with nothing but ill intentions in mind. Once again, a good, informative singles websites guide can help you to avoid making contact with such individuals. For example, one such singles websites guide highlights the importance of avoiding situations where you could be required to share your personal information such as your physical address and your telephone number. As is mentioned in the guide, you should never consider sharing such information with anyone you meet on singles websites, at least not for a few weeks.

The same singles websites guide referred to above also explains why you should take extreme care when it comes to actually meeting the other person you’ve been communicating with, even if you’ve been communicating for a few months. For example, the guide explains why you should always insist on meeting in a public place where they will be many people about, and of course, you should always try to use your own transport if you have any. Alternatively, you should make sure you have enough money on you so that you can pay for a taxi if necessary. Let’s face it; even though the two of you may have been communicating for quite some time, that’s not to say that you know each other very well, so of course you don’t want to rely on someone for transport when you barely even know them.

These tips are of course just the tip of the iceberg, and that’s why you should make a point of finding a reputable singles websites guide if you intend signing up with singles websites. A good guide will explain in detail why you should never open up completely on your first date by telling your date your entire life story. Likewise, you should never start or encourage any form of conversation regarding sex with anyone you meet on singles websites. Also, the same singles websites guide referred to in this article explains why you should never lie when you meet your date, because after all, lies always tend to come out in the end, and it’s certainly not a good way of starting a relationship, particularly if you’re hoping to find a lifelong partner.

Providing you take this advice into consideration when you begin frequenting singles websites, and providing you follow the advice given in a singles websites guide, you should have no difficulty finding and meeting someone who may very well end up being your partner for life. And yes, it can be a good start.

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