Don’t Let Your Insecurities Stop You To Get Him Back

Dear Candice,

I still love my ex boyfriend, and I definitely want him back. But what if he says “no”? What if I’m embarrassed or humiliated? What if I’m forced to admit to my own mistakes? What if he’s not interested at all? These questions are bugging me. If only I have the courage to do this. Please help.  – Sam (Oneonta, NY)

Dear Sam,

You’re right Sam, if only one of you have stepped forward to take action, your relationship could have been saved and nurtured. This is one very unfortunate fact… many potentially great relationships that could have flourished die in break ups over such relatively trivial matters. There are people who chose to not take action when things get a little bit rough even though they know that their relationship is great and worth saving. And there are so many completely unnecessary break ups allowed to crush just like that.

This could be one of those life-changing moments. This could be the time and place for you to stand up for what you know is right and to take a stand in favor of what might be the most important thing in the world—love. You can’t allow your own insecurities to stop you from getting your ex boyfriend back. Many people have failed to re-start their relationships because of their inability to overcome their own insecurities. Don’t be like them, don’t let your insecurities hold you back.

It’s fathomable that you might be reluctant to take action. Taking steps to get someone back in your life inevitably involves exposing your own vulnerabilities.Taking action can also place you at some risk of having your most tender tendencies poked and prodded. However, being proactive is going to force you to “put yourself out there”.

What if he says “no”? What if I’m embarrassed or humiliated? What if I’m forced to admit to my own mistakes?… You kept on asking “what if” questions, these questions won’t help you get through your situation at all, these questions only shows your insecurities. Yes, there are so many different potentially awkward and painful possibilities. Many women can be turned off from the idea of taking action to get a boyfriend back because they have self-confidence and self-esteem issues. They worry if they’re smart enough, pretty enough, interesting enough or otherwise “good enough” to justify happiness and a wonderful romance. Of course, they are, but by just saying that doesn’t make all of those insecurities disappear. No matter how many times your friends and I tell you how pretty you are, won’t keep you thinking of those painful possibilities.

Still, you can’t let those fears stand in your way of making a move to get him back. If you know the two of you deserve a second chance you owe it to yourself, to him and to your heart to do what you can to have a rebound relationship.

You can stop your insecurities from getting in the way by trying to focus on the positive future that awaits you after you get your ex boyfriend back. You can also take action based on a solid plan that all but guarantees a positive result. If only you have a good approach and are doing the things that really work, it can make you feel more secure in the situation and more confident about your actions.

You are good enough and you absolutely do deserve to get a second chance to make things work with your ex boyfriend. Don’t let anything stand in your way. Because in the end, the important thing is to take action regardless of your insecurities.