Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Without The Silliness

Dear Candice,

I’ve been planning my moves to get my ex boyfriend back. I actually bought a new wardrobe to somewhat change how I look. I’m also planning to change my hairstyle and get into bowling because I’ve heard from his friends that he’s into bowling nowadays. Are these the right ways to get my ex boyfriend back? – Jaz (Asheville, N Carolina)

Dear Jaz,

I understand what you are up to and I’ve seen it myself. Some women who decided to get their ex boyfriends back is amazing. And thinking how far these women can go to win their ex boyfriends back is even more amazing, and yes… silly. In fact, I’ve been there. A couple break ups and I decided to rebuild the relationship. I’ve embarked on a journey to get my man back that involves all sorts of certainly crazy behavior.

Now, let me tell you my story to help you settle the matter. At one point, I’ve decided to change my looks after a breakup. My brunette-head suddenly turned into platinum blond with a new haircut. Thanks to my stylist and the tanning salon. I also seriously became a bird who barely eats in an effort to lose a few pounds from being an athletic person with a normal appetite. I knew for a fact that I look strange and uncomfortable in my own skin then. But I’ve fooled no one.

All at once, I tried to change my personality. I became submissive, accommodating and sugary sweet whenever my ex boyfriend is within a half-mile. I’ve totally shifted my interests, and my behavior changes radically. My friends told me that they can actually see right through the bogus attempt to reinvent myself, but I didn’t care at all. And guess what?, my ex boyfriend didn’t care too. I’ve fooled no one.

After the break up I started wearing miniskirts and skin-tight tops to get my ex boyfriend’s attention. I’ve made a few heads turn, but not my ex boyfriend. He was not interested at all. Added to that, I’ve put up fake jealousy traps. I lied, plot a story and told everybody farfetched stories.

They’re all intended to revive my relationship, but as far as I can recall, they’ve done nothing but drove a wedge between me and my ex boyfriend. I’ve tried to maneuver things to get him back. But, none of it worked. I knew some people who are lucky and were able to get their man back using those crazy methods, but it was just a temporary fix and another break up followed very quickly.

It’s no way to get a boyfriend back, is it?

The only strategy that really makes sense is one based on decency, honesty, trust and sincerity. It might not be as alluring and it may not have little tricks or built-in short cuts, but it works. In fact, it works much better than going nuts in a foolish attempt to recreate key aspects of your life and personality!

I’ve realized my mistakes. I’ve learned from it, unfortunately, the hard way. Getting your man back without the silliness will allow you to get through the break up and back into the relationship with your dignity and pride intact. Most importantly, perhaps, it works. Not just in the short run, but over the long haul, too. Getting your ex back honestly lays a solid foundation from which the renewed relationship can grow and prosper.

If you love him and you want him back you can get the job done without the silliness. Don’t think about dying your hair, inventing lies or trying to pretend that you’re someone you are not. Getting your ex boyfriend back without the silliness works. It sure is!