If You Know That It’s The Right Thing To Do – Get Him Back

Dear Candice,

I want my ex back but I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to do. I feel that there’s a lot more to this situation. Can I still push on getting him back even in doubt? Please help. Need your thoughts to enlighten me. Thanks Candice. – Carrie (Oakland, CA)

Dear Carrie,

We often times see couples who are stuck in weird relationships that are clearly destructive. Those couples who obviously have a relationship that’s doomed and hopeless, guaranteed to leave them both unhappy after wasting so much time and energy. These are the couples who should split up, as we would all say.

On the other hand, there are other couples who should stay together even though they experience rough times. The couples who know in their hearts that the two of them fit together nicely and realize that something special is always there. Those are the couples who have radically good relationships and you can sense the spark between them. They love one another. Still, something happens and they break up.

So let me ask you this Carrie, which group do you belong? If you’re in the first group, I hope you get out of that mess as soon as you possibly can! If, however, you’re in the second group, getting him back is my advice. You don’t have to acquiesce with this break up. You don’t need to say “that’s the way the cookie crumbles” and move on. If you know that it’s the right thing to do. That’s right. Get him back.

Now Carrie, let me ask you more questions. Can you imagine living without your ex boyfriend? Do you think that the two of you do not belong together? Is your heart telling you that the relationship is better off that way? Do you not feel the love? Look into your heart for a moment. If “No” is your answer to all of the questions, then it’s time to get him back.

Believe it or not, break ups are optional. You can get over it. Many women, including myself, have been in situations like yours. Instead of deciding to just accept an unwanted break up, we decided to take a stand for our love. We decided to get back together with our exes. Thousands and thousands of couples have emerged from break ups to build wonderfully strong and fulfilling relationships.

Let’s entertain the alternative for a moment. What might happen if you decide to surrender in the face of this challenge. You won’t see him again. You won’t spend another evening together, share another story, swap another kiss or enjoy another hug. Obviously, this isn’t what you want. You don’t want to give up on love and you don’t want to turn a deaf ear to your heart’s lament. If you make this decision, it will haunt you.

Don’t ever think to surrender. If you try to get your man back and fail, you can at least take solace in the fact that you tried. If you’ve made efforts to get back together and it doesn’t work out, at least you’ll know you gave it a chance to flourish.

If you are certain that you want to preserve the relationship, get him back. Listen to your heart, instead of just accepting the break up if you really don’t want to. If you know deep down inside that taking a second chance on your relationship is the right thing to do… no one’s stopping you to get your ex boyfriend back.