How Do Men Characterize Beautiful Women? Truth Revealed!

April 6, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Dear Candice,

I’ve been in the modeling industry for four years. Having the opportunity to work as a model has also allowed to meet a lot of people. I’ve dated some cool dudes but haven’t really had any serious relationship. It seems that honest, sincere, and loyal man, in this industry, is hard to come by. Modesty aside, I got good looks. If good looks is so important for men, how they don’t take me seriously? How do men characterize beautiful women? – Margery

Dear Margery,

What makes you beautiful is actually more than your appearance, size and shape. Your personality is your true source of beauty. As Sir Francis Bacon would say: “The best part of beauty is that which no picture can express.”

Most men look for something more than meets the eye. They often call it, the “inner beauty”, a personality that can touch human soul with laughter, intelligence, mannerisms and confidence. However, it’s also true that humans are basically visual creatures and prefer those who are aesthetically pleasing to the eye. That’s why sometimes, it takes time before someone can actually see the inner beauty in you.

I’m sure you’ve already heard about a new type of reality TV show, airing now. The topic? Beautiful women. There’s a twist though. Evidently, the participants are given to understand that the bottom line is who is physically superior. The previews, promoting the show, have snippets of interviews with these beautiful women, stating their own views of their relative beauty on a scale of 1 to 10. The real agenda of the show is to determine which of these beautiful women has true beauty which is more than skin deep.

Here’s a comment from one of the contenders: “Just look at me. Yes, I look in the mirror constantly and I like what I see. Wouldn’t you agree?” In the majority, the women appear to be highly narcissistic and shallow to boot, stating that they are surely a 20, on the 1-10 scale.

So, what really makes beautiful women beautiful to the ordinary man? Bleached hair and overdone makeup doesn’t seem to impress a regular guy as constituting the woman of his dreams. He’s looking for other qualities that are more than skin deep. As far as the visual appeal, men really want a girl with a bit more refinement. The celebrity look only goes so far and doesn’t last long. Men tend to associate the overdone celebrity with a personality that doesn’t stand the test of time.

Sure, men enjoy a woman’s physical appearance as much as the next guy. However, nothing matters but personality, when they’re looking for a serious relationship. Men do appreciate women of a generous, joyful and gentle spirit. In the eyes of most men, beautiful women are possessed of all of these qualities, a.k.a “inner beauty”. Men are perhaps more astute in their assessment of beautiful women than women might think!

We can only wait to see how these reality show contestants fare. What’s pretty difficult to figure is how they’ve been duped into thinking it’s all about looks. Are they truly so conceited, or is it all a hype? Either way, it would be fun to root for a truly beautiful woman, who didn’t rate herself a ’20′ on a scale of 1-10.

When it comes to real life… beauty is really in the eyes of the beholder. Different people have different ideas about what is aesthetically pleasing to the eye. So, let me end this one with another quote by Sophia Loren: “Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.” This implies that feeling good about yourself is the connection between beauty and self-image. The more comfortable you are in your own skin, the more beautiful you are and you can actually be.

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