Tapping the Wrong Approach Won’t Get Your Boyfriend Back

December 19, 2008 | 71 Comments

Dear Candice,

My boyfriend broke up with me, he said he is done fighting. I really want to work things out. It’s been five months, and I’m still waiting for his call. I followed some of my friends advice to get him back, but none worked. There are times that I can’t make up my mind? What shall I do? – Saddie

Dear Saddie,

From the way I see it, you tried to get your boyfriend back, but failed. You did not get him back because you’ve tapped the wrong approach. These common errors leave countless relationships for dead on the rocky shores of a break up. These are the kind of mistakes that ruin the opportunity to revive and maintain relationships that might have flowered into something really amazing. In other words, what you did are huge errors and you should bed over backwards to avoid committing them again.

Waiting for him to make the first move was your first mistake. While you’re waiting for him, he might be waiting for you. Until someone blinks, the relationship doesn’t get out of break up territory. Besides, every day wasted on waiting is another day of unnecessary suffering. Face your fears and make a move as soon as possible. Your odds to get your boyfriend back improve with fast action. It also delays risk intervening developments that can greatly complicate any effort at getting back together.

Everywhere you turn people, especially those who care for you, are offering you advice on how to handle your break up. Although the advice was from your friend, most of it you’re getting is nonsense. It may be well-intended, but the attitudes of your friends and family members bear very little similarity to the ideas and recommendations of a true relationship expert. Following bad advice can nearly crush an effort at making up. It is important to be wary of friendly guidance. Listen politely, but take your action cues from someone who has spent a considerable amount of time and research on getting an ex back.

You said that sometimes you can’t make up your mind. Well, let me tell you to please – get yourself together and make up your mind. Do you really want to get him back or not? Don’t get on the high wire without a net. If your plan is to get your boyfriend back, you need to enter the making up process with a clear plan in mind. If you’re going in blind, basing your actions on hunches and your opinions, you probably aren’t going to get very far.

Don’t worry. You can still get him back. Just keep from these common errors. You stand a good chance of getting your boyfriend back, just keep on trying. If, on the other hand, you stumble into one of these pitfalls again, your efforts to rebuild the relationship will be significantly compromised. Act now, act smart and cast your fears off. Having those fundamentals in place may take you from breaking up to making up in quick order.

Getting your ex boyfriend back can be surprisingly easy if you’re armed with the right information and knowledge before making a move. A good plan that does make sense. If you have a problem with your keys, you look to a locksmith for help, right? If you’re car won’t run right, you call a mechanic. So it does make sense to call on advice of a relationship guru who can give you good advice about getting your ex boyfriend back.

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Posted by Candice | Filed Under Advice, Breakup, Relationship