Surviving After a Break Up

January 26, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Dear Candice,

I know it’s over. But how come it is hard to face that fact? Shall I get him back or not? I understand that you’ve been through all these, but what and how exactly? How did you get your ex back? – Chona

Dear Chona,

In a relationship one of the hardest things to deal with is breaking up. It is as hard as breaking a crystal because you’ll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again. Crazy this thing called LOVE… it feels good when it obeys and it cunningly hurts when it breaks.

However, no matter how hurting you are, you will need to find a way to survive that break up. I’ve been in the situation too, and fighting against the anguish caused by the break up was never so easy. Until I’ve learned that there’s a perfect way to forget bad memories, think no more of my painful experience and finally get rid of pain.

In breaking up, sorrows come not as a single spy, but in battalion. It seems that everywhere we go, everything we do, and every blink of our eyes always reminds of our exes. Funny how the whole world becomes depopulated when only one person has gone, right? It is really hard for me to remove reminders of our relationship. But, I’ve come to realize that keeping bad memories can do nothing but shatter a peaceful moment of my life.

It is hard to accept a break up, because at the beginning and in the end of a relationship we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone. At some point, I couldn’t tell my friends that I no longer have my boyfriend. It’s really hard to accept that the once perfect dawn has turned already into dusk. Fortunately, I stumbled on a page that has changed my life full throttle. The page that says: “Breaking up is not necessarily forever… break ups are optional” And that is a fact. In an instant I was able to understand why it is hard for me to let go of the pain. I was able to see the light.

Time heals all wounds, as most people would say. I used to believe that only time can heal a broken heart. There was a time that every night when I face the mirror, I need to affirm to my self: “It will pass.. it will pass… it will pass….” But who am I kidding? The more I wait the more pain and bad memories I accumulate. It was not healthy. So I’ve cleared my mind, decided and put forth efforts to get my boyfriend back.

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Posted by Candice | Filed Under Advice, Breakup, Moving On, Relationship