You Can Get Your Ex Back — The Proof Is All Around You

March 3, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Dear Candice,

My boyfriend broke up with me. We’ve been together for four years and it’s been almost nine months and I still feel depressed. His friends keep telling me that he’s still hurting and would like to take me back too, but I haven’t heard from him. I don’t know what to do. Is it possible to get him back? — Krishna Miranda

Dear Krishna,

Is it possible? Can I actually do anything to get my ex back or am I merely at the mercy of fate? These are the questions we often asked in the aftermath of a breakup. We are fortunate if we can get answers the soonest possible time. However, oftentimes we feel numb, indifferent and indecisive after the breakup. It might not be easy and also might not be immediate, but you can definitely get your boyfriend back. The proof is all around you.

Now, let me tell you some absolute evidence that you can doubtlessly revive a relationship.

It happens all the time, after all. At one point or another. almost every working, stable relationship experienced troubles. Rarely you can find a happy couple who hasn’t been through a break up or some sort of other significant problem. For some reason, though, these relationships re-start and the couple emerges happier and more committed than ever. The fact that this happens with so many other people, no matter what the reasons of break up are, should underline the fact that it is possible to get your ex back.

There is a good guide. There are good and qualified advice out there, you should be convinced that you can get him back with a little effort. You might not be sure of how to get your man back, but that doesn’t mean that other people don’t understand the process. Relationship gurus and experts in the field who study human relationships inside and out are there to help you. They know what makes a romance work and they know how to rebuild a relationship after it goes through a rocky experience.

So, the two of you are experiencing rough times. You’ve already parted ways and it’s such a tough time because you know the two of you could have a great relationship with one another. As far as you know, your relationship deserves a second chance, and you want your ex boyfriend back as soon as humanly possible right?

Now you might be wondering why your heart is telling you to go get your ex back. Reason is, your heart knows something special is happening between the two of you. Sound hopelessly romantic? Yes, but the heart knows its way, it needs a map though. The question is… are you willing to take action to get what your heart desires?

If you believe, deep down inside, that the two of you were meant to be together, you can be sure that it’s possible to make that happen. If you want to get back together with your ex, you can do it. A combination of determination, action, and an intelligent approach will yield the results you crave. The two of you will be rebuilding your relationship and on your way to a bright future. You can get your ex back.

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When Is It Too Late To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?

January 13, 2009 | 7 Comments

Dear Candice,

Broke up with my ex five months ago. I haven’t heard from him since then. But now I feel like I’m missing a part of me, which my ex could only fill. I want to get back together with him but I think it’s too late to link up now. Is there a time after which you just shouldn’t try to get back together with an ex boyfriend? If so, how long is too long? – Maja (Phoenix, AZ)

Dear Maja,

The primary answer to those questions are “no” and “never”. There’s a caveat to that kind of open-ended thinking though, and yes… in every rule there are exceptions. Generally, however, you can get back together with an ex boyfriend even if a great deal of time has passed.

What’s the caveat? Yes, it’s possible to get your ex back even after a lengthy period of separation or break up. However, it will be harder to accomplish the task if a great deal of time has passed. Meaning, you can still get him back if you waited, but it will be a lot harder than if you had taken immediate action.

What are the exceptions? If the case is that you have waited too long, you might have to surrender your dream of rebuilding the relationship.

Here’s a sample scenario. You’ve waited so long that your ex has already started dating someone else. If you wait until this time or until he’s actually had time to meet and fall in love a rebound girl, it’s not a very good idea to try to get him back. As much as you want to be fair with your feelings, it isn’t just fair to him. It’s not fair to the other woman in his life neither. Oh, and of course, it rarely works. At the same time, there is a substantial risk of making his life more difficult. That is definitely not a way to treat someone you supposedly love. You have waited too long if injecting yourself back into his life would somehow harm him or anyone else.

You want to get your boyfriend back and you probably don’t have any interest in being “the other woman”, anyway. If you ex is in the company of another, the idea of putting forth a truly Herculean effort to get him back probably isn’t that exciting. This is exactly why I advocate prompt action.

What is then the basic rule of thumb? That it’s never too late to get your boyfriend back if you’re willing to put forth enough effort and if he hasn’t already met (or, heaven forbid) married someone else.

Along those line, the best strategy you can take is to commit yourself to take action as quickly as you possibly can. As time passes, it becomes harder and harder to get your man back. You can still do it in most cases, but that’s no excuse for letting any more sand work its way down the hourglass.

What you need to do now is to get a good plan and get busy putting forth an effort to get your ex back. It’s almost never too late, but it’s a lot easier when it’s early.

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