How To Get Your Dream Girl and Keep Her For Good

February 17, 2010 | Leave a Comment

Dear Candice,

I’ve been in and out a few relationships. Lately I’ve been having dreams about a girl that I was really in love with a long time ago. My dream girl, she is. We never got together but we’re civil to each other until now. We don’t talk or see each other much but when we do, we get along really well. I thought I gave up on her a long time ago ‘cos she started dating some other guy. I think about her more often now. I wanted to tell her how I feel, but was scared to know that she doesn’t feel the same for me, or if she does, the relationship might not last long. So my question is… how to get your dream girl and keep her for good? – Oliver George from Texas


Dear Oliver,

If not all, most of us have someone that we dream of dating, cuddling and spending our time with. But not everyone has the chance to really get to meet and know very well that someone. It’s because most of us didn’t take the chance… often, we fear rejection. How can you possibly get your dream girl doesn’t involve how you treat women, but how you treat yourself, you got to be a real man.

Always look for something greater. Among the positive things about life, whether a situation is brought about by luck, fate or your past actions, you can always evolve to a better life. If you want to keep going, you certainly can, because there are plenty of levels to keep evolving to. Never stop dreaming and achieving for something greater than your life now.

Get rid of your ‘inner wussy’ . More often, inner wussy screws up your chances in getting the girl of your dream. You may need to take some time getting rid of it, because usually, it gets stuck and take away energy from you and going forward can be a lot difficult. Think about what benefits you can get by thinking like a wussy. Perhaps if you grumble about stuff it indicates you do not have to feel accountable for your life, which may feel good in the short-term. Or perhaps if you whine about how awful other people are will give you a slight feeling of being superior to others. Do yourself a favor, and get rid of this stuff. It will never serve you, and women don’t dig it.

Be responsible. If you wish to have a tremendous success with women as well as life, be someone who makes things happen. Be responsible in every thoughts and actions you make. And if you find yourself trying to get away and not taking responsibility for your decisions in life, take a pause and remind yourself that you are the one responsible for your own life. Particularly in those times when it’s fairly easy to put blame on somebody else. If you take responsibility for your very existence, you’ll be a much better person who can create the life you hope for in the process.

Keep in mind that you can only change yourself, not others. Focus on yourself, not women. “You can’t change other people, you can only change yourself…”  is one great adage that we can all can live for. Whenever things go south or you weren’t able to get what you want, your immediate thought is “this other person should change, or else..,”  this is not how you should think. If you really want to be a lot more successful with women, quit from wanting women to change for you, and rather start changing yourself. Once you do, you’ll also change your own point of view and your results.

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