You Can Get Your Ex Back — The Proof Is All Around You

March 3, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Dear Candice,

My boyfriend broke up with me. We’ve been together for four years and it’s been almost nine months and I still feel depressed. His friends keep telling me that he’s still hurting and would like to take me back too, but I haven’t heard from him. I don’t know what to do. Is it possible to get him back? — Krishna Miranda

Dear Krishna,

Is it possible? Can I actually do anything to get my ex back or am I merely at the mercy of fate? These are the questions we often asked in the aftermath of a breakup. We are fortunate if we can get answers the soonest possible time. However, oftentimes we feel numb, indifferent and indecisive after the breakup. It might not be easy and also might not be immediate, but you can definitely get your boyfriend back. The proof is all around you.

Now, let me tell you some absolute evidence that you can doubtlessly revive a relationship.

It happens all the time, after all. At one point or another. almost every working, stable relationship experienced troubles. Rarely you can find a happy couple who hasn’t been through a break up or some sort of other significant problem. For some reason, though, these relationships re-start and the couple emerges happier and more committed than ever. The fact that this happens with so many other people, no matter what the reasons of break up are, should underline the fact that it is possible to get your ex back.

There is a good guide. There are good and qualified advice out there, you should be convinced that you can get him back with a little effort. You might not be sure of how to get your man back, but that doesn’t mean that other people don’t understand the process. Relationship gurus and experts in the field who study human relationships inside and out are there to help you. They know what makes a romance work and they know how to rebuild a relationship after it goes through a rocky experience.

So, the two of you are experiencing rough times. You’ve already parted ways and it’s such a tough time because you know the two of you could have a great relationship with one another. As far as you know, your relationship deserves a second chance, and you want your ex boyfriend back as soon as humanly possible right?

Now you might be wondering why your heart is telling you to go get your ex back. Reason is, your heart knows something special is happening between the two of you. Sound hopelessly romantic? Yes, but the heart knows its way, it needs a map though. The question is… are you willing to take action to get what your heart desires?

If you believe, deep down inside, that the two of you were meant to be together, you can be sure that it’s possible to make that happen. If you want to get back together with your ex, you can do it. A combination of determination, action, and an intelligent approach will yield the results you crave. The two of you will be rebuilding your relationship and on your way to a bright future. You can get your ex back.

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Keep It Cool While You Are In The Process Of Getting Your Ex Back

February 25, 2009 | 1 Comment

Getting your ex back is certainly not as easy as 1-2-3. As per my experience, you must have these three things to successfully get your boyfriend back: determination, willingness to act and a good approach. I did not get him back in a short period of time. In fact, while I was in the process of getting him back there were idle moments. Moments in between the point of actual breakup and the point of finally getting back together.

While you are in the process of getting your ex back, you may see your ex somewhat indifferent. Although you have this feeling that the situation is passive, it is important to play it simple and keep it cool. Keeping the situation cool will definitely not ruin your chance… in fact, more often than not, it increases your chances to get your ex back.

No break up is pleasant, so is waiting for your ex to return your call after asking him to give your relationship another chance. However, the manner on how you deal with the situation will have significant impact on your attitude and outlook on relationships, romantic or not. Of course, you can always cry your eyes out during those times, but a far better option is to vow to yourself to be a cool ex whenever you see him again. Here are some “post-breakup while getting your ex back” scenarios and how to keep it cool.

Your ex with another girl. A common friend has invited you both to a party. It’s been two months since he broke it off with you and a week after your email asking him for a possibility of getting back together. Suddenly you saw him with a lady you don’t recognize. To keep it cool, do not play games and try to make him jealous. Instead, hold your head high, walk over to them, introduce yourself and wish them well.

Mom is in touch with your ex still. When you two were together, you enjoyed a close relationship with your family. However, when you broke up, your mom is still in touch your ex, talking to him over the phone and having him around during special occasions. This scenario is actually an advantage for you, but if you act on it in an uncool way, you can ruin your chance to get your ex back. If you are hurting because your ex won’t return your call but he often speaks with your mom, talk to your mom and tell her what you feel. She might be able to help you convince your ex for a rebound relationship.

You are chilling at the park with Bruce, the dog your ex bought for you. Then suddenly, you see your ex walking toward you. To keep it cool, be polite and make a small talk. Limit your talk about Bruce, and how your ex has been doing. Do not try to ignite unnecessary conflict by trying to change agreement over pet custody.

You definitely do not have control on how your ex would deal with a “post-breakup while getting your ex back” scenario, but you can try to deal with it with your integrity in tact. It’s not an enjoyable situation but it is such a learning experience or an opportunity for you to grow, if you’ll think this way you’ll absolutely feel better. Be graceful when handling the process of getting your ex back.

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Why Consider Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

February 23, 2009 | 2 Comments

Dear Candice,

My boyfriend for almost a year recently ended our relationship. I tried to save the relationship, but he keeps on telling me that he has to sort things out first. Shall I still consider getting him back? — Veronica

Dear Veronica,

Your relationship came to a screeching halt. You had a nice thing going on but your relationship finally came to a painful and frustrating situation – break up. Sure, you’ll find the situation sort of ugly. The more you want to save the relationship the harder it gets to keep. You’ve been trying to hold a wagon to stay one piece but the wheels keep falling of it. It can be the very rocky times of your life now that it’s over and you can’t believe that you spent all that time and emotion only to lose it in the end.

So, why do you want your ex boyfriend back? Wouldn’t it be easier to just consider this chapter of your life closed and to move on to some proverbial greener pasture? What could conceivably motivate you after all of the agony and hurt to even make getting your ex boyfriend back as an option??

You might say: Yikes! Some of you would say: No way! When we put it in those terms, the thought of getting your ex back doesn’t sound that attractive, does it? Good thing there’s a bigger perspective on your relationship that can conjure up positive images that easily overshadow any potential problems you may be experiencing related to the break up. A different approach to look at things. , More often than not, this alternative perspective gives you all the reason why you should consider getting your ex boyfriend back.

Now, let me tell you some of the positive alternative perspectives:

Love is just too valuable to ignore. You owe it to yourself to go after your ex if you think the love of your life is walking away. We like to pose as though old-school romanticism is something of a thing from the past, however, we know that real love does exist and that it’s very special. You simply can’t just missed out on a great chance of love. If your heart is yelling at you, it won’t be fair to ignore it for. It does make sense to get your ex back if it can drown out the tears and screams of anguish.

Creating even more meaningful relationship is possible. If you feel like the break up was a bad idea and that there’s a lot of potential left in the idea of the two of you being together, it’s possible to look past the ugliness of a break up. Focus on the potential advantages of getting him back in your life instead.

Optimism is better than dwelling. If there’s something special in your relationship, in one way or another, it will maneuver its own way to get into you no matter how hard you try to ignore it. Keep in mind that things don’t get better if no one took the time to deal with it. If you feel that things can get better and that you can make the relationship work, that optimism can be much more interesting than dwelling on the past and its less beautiful moments.

You get to make a choice. Would you rather deal with regret and suffering or would you prefer to get your ex boyfriend back? That decision is yours to make. A classic “the glass is half empty/half full” situation, indeed. There’s a lot of pain to go around these days, but there is even more potential for something meaningful to happen.

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Surviving After a Break Up

January 26, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Dear Candice,

I know it’s over. But how come it is hard to face that fact? Shall I get him back or not? I understand that you’ve been through all these, but what and how exactly? How did you get your ex back? – Chona

Dear Chona,

In a relationship one of the hardest things to deal with is breaking up. It is as hard as breaking a crystal because you’ll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again. Crazy this thing called LOVE… it feels good when it obeys and it cunningly hurts when it breaks.

However, no matter how hurting you are, you will need to find a way to survive that break up. I’ve been in the situation too, and fighting against the anguish caused by the break up was never so easy. Until I’ve learned that there’s a perfect way to forget bad memories, think no more of my painful experience and finally get rid of pain.

In breaking up, sorrows come not as a single spy, but in battalion. It seems that everywhere we go, everything we do, and every blink of our eyes always reminds of our exes. Funny how the whole world becomes depopulated when only one person has gone, right? It is really hard for me to remove reminders of our relationship. But, I’ve come to realize that keeping bad memories can do nothing but shatter a peaceful moment of my life.

It is hard to accept a break up, because at the beginning and in the end of a relationship we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone. At some point, I couldn’t tell my friends that I no longer have my boyfriend. It’s really hard to accept that the once perfect dawn has turned already into dusk. Fortunately, I stumbled on a page that has changed my life full throttle. The page that says: “Breaking up is not necessarily forever… break ups are optional” And that is a fact. In an instant I was able to understand why it is hard for me to let go of the pain. I was able to see the light.

Time heals all wounds, as most people would say. I used to believe that only time can heal a broken heart. There was a time that every night when I face the mirror, I need to affirm to my self: “It will pass.. it will pass… it will pass….” But who am I kidding? The more I wait the more pain and bad memories I accumulate. It was not healthy. So I’ve cleared my mind, decided and put forth efforts to get my boyfriend back.

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Reasons Why You Don’t Need To Know If Your Ex Boyfriend Wants You Back

December 8, 2008 | 2 Comments

Looking for strategies and techniques that can actually persuade any man to revive the relationship can be very tough. Women who want to know how to get an ex boyfriend back are out there looking for advice to make it happen and how to overcome a break up.

However, most of them continuously fail to do the very first action that should be done before getting an ex back. And that action would be, asking themselves ‘if’ and ‘why’ they want their boyfriends back. This is definitely a key aspect to the best plans for re-igniting the flames of passion with your ex. The answer to the question can tell you a great deal about whether or not pursuing the relationship will really be of value to you.

First of all, I would like to thank Andrea for sending the letter that was posted here last week. She asked the question that almost no one ever asks. “How can you tell if your ex boyfriend wants you back?”

There are reasons why this isn’t a common topic of discussion in the wake of a break up and most importantly, why this shouldn’t be asked in the first place.

You and your ex boyfriend had a relationship, no matter what happens to your relationship, he still has feelings for you. That slight opening and a good plan is all it often takes to get a couple back together again. Many women don’t ask the question because they don’t need to know the answer in order to get a guy back.

It’s really impossible to know with absolutely certainty what he is feeling or why. Asking what he wants out of your relationship is such a hard question. Getting an accurate assessment of how he feels can be really difficult.

The importance of knowing what your ex is thinking sets in when you are already on the move and making efforts to get him back. If you know how he feels and what he is thinking, you will have a much better idea about how to get him back. You’ll be able to make more informed judgments.

Now, if in case you really want to know how your ex feels about reviving the relationship, the only way is to simply ask. Talk to him as a person and just ask. We may not spend that much time thinking about whether your boyfriend actually wants you back, but it is a question that’s worth asking. If you know how to properly interact with men and want to get to the bottom of how your ex feels about you, the very best solution at your disposal is your ability to ask a few questions. You want to have every possible tool at your expense in order to get back together. Having some firsthand knowledge of his situation may be just what you need.

But then again, knowing the answer is not really important. This won’t be the reason at all to keep you from getting your ex back . If you really are determined to get him back, it’s imperative to have a good plan. Your determination if mix with a good plan, is enough to get your ex boyfriend back.

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