You Can Get Your Ex Back — The Proof Is All Around You

March 3, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Dear Candice,

My boyfriend broke up with me. We’ve been together for four years and it’s been almost nine months and I still feel depressed. His friends keep telling me that he’s still hurting and would like to take me back too, but I haven’t heard from him. I don’t know what to do. Is it possible to get him back? — Krishna Miranda

Dear Krishna,

Is it possible? Can I actually do anything to get my ex back or am I merely at the mercy of fate? These are the questions we often asked in the aftermath of a breakup. We are fortunate if we can get answers the soonest possible time. However, oftentimes we feel numb, indifferent and indecisive after the breakup. It might not be easy and also might not be immediate, but you can definitely get your boyfriend back. The proof is all around you.

Now, let me tell you some absolute evidence that you can doubtlessly revive a relationship.

It happens all the time, after all. At one point or another. almost every working, stable relationship experienced troubles. Rarely you can find a happy couple who hasn’t been through a break up or some sort of other significant problem. For some reason, though, these relationships re-start and the couple emerges happier and more committed than ever. The fact that this happens with so many other people, no matter what the reasons of break up are, should underline the fact that it is possible to get your ex back.

There is a good guide. There are good and qualified advice out there, you should be convinced that you can get him back with a little effort. You might not be sure of how to get your man back, but that doesn’t mean that other people don’t understand the process. Relationship gurus and experts in the field who study human relationships inside and out are there to help you. They know what makes a romance work and they know how to rebuild a relationship after it goes through a rocky experience.

So, the two of you are experiencing rough times. You’ve already parted ways and it’s such a tough time because you know the two of you could have a great relationship with one another. As far as you know, your relationship deserves a second chance, and you want your ex boyfriend back as soon as humanly possible right?

Now you might be wondering why your heart is telling you to go get your ex back. Reason is, your heart knows something special is happening between the two of you. Sound hopelessly romantic? Yes, but the heart knows its way, it needs a map though. The question is… are you willing to take action to get what your heart desires?

If you believe, deep down inside, that the two of you were meant to be together, you can be sure that it’s possible to make that happen. If you want to get back together with your ex, you can do it. A combination of determination, action, and an intelligent approach will yield the results you crave. The two of you will be rebuilding your relationship and on your way to a bright future. You can get your ex back.

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Surviving After a Break Up

January 26, 2009 | Leave a Comment

Dear Candice,

I know it’s over. But how come it is hard to face that fact? Shall I get him back or not? I understand that you’ve been through all these, but what and how exactly? How did you get your ex back? – Chona

Dear Chona,

In a relationship one of the hardest things to deal with is breaking up. It is as hard as breaking a crystal because you’ll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again. Crazy this thing called LOVE… it feels good when it obeys and it cunningly hurts when it breaks.

However, no matter how hurting you are, you will need to find a way to survive that break up. I’ve been in the situation too, and fighting against the anguish caused by the break up was never so easy. Until I’ve learned that there’s a perfect way to forget bad memories, think no more of my painful experience and finally get rid of pain.

In breaking up, sorrows come not as a single spy, but in battalion. It seems that everywhere we go, everything we do, and every blink of our eyes always reminds of our exes. Funny how the whole world becomes depopulated when only one person has gone, right? It is really hard for me to remove reminders of our relationship. But, I’ve come to realize that keeping bad memories can do nothing but shatter a peaceful moment of my life.

It is hard to accept a break up, because at the beginning and in the end of a relationship we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone. At some point, I couldn’t tell my friends that I no longer have my boyfriend. It’s really hard to accept that the once perfect dawn has turned already into dusk. Fortunately, I stumbled on a page that has changed my life full throttle. The page that says: “Breaking up is not necessarily forever… break ups are optional” And that is a fact. In an instant I was able to understand why it is hard for me to let go of the pain. I was able to see the light.

Time heals all wounds, as most people would say. I used to believe that only time can heal a broken heart. There was a time that every night when I face the mirror, I need to affirm to my self: “It will pass.. it will pass… it will pass….” But who am I kidding? The more I wait the more pain and bad memories I accumulate. It was not healthy. So I’ve cleared my mind, decided and put forth efforts to get my boyfriend back.

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When Is It Too Late To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?

January 13, 2009 | 7 Comments

Dear Candice,

Broke up with my ex five months ago. I haven’t heard from him since then. But now I feel like I’m missing a part of me, which my ex could only fill. I want to get back together with him but I think it’s too late to link up now. Is there a time after which you just shouldn’t try to get back together with an ex boyfriend? If so, how long is too long? – Maja (Phoenix, AZ)

Dear Maja,

The primary answer to those questions are “no” and “never”. There’s a caveat to that kind of open-ended thinking though, and yes… in every rule there are exceptions. Generally, however, you can get back together with an ex boyfriend even if a great deal of time has passed.

What’s the caveat? Yes, it’s possible to get your ex back even after a lengthy period of separation or break up. However, it will be harder to accomplish the task if a great deal of time has passed. Meaning, you can still get him back if you waited, but it will be a lot harder than if you had taken immediate action.

What are the exceptions? If the case is that you have waited too long, you might have to surrender your dream of rebuilding the relationship.

Here’s a sample scenario. You’ve waited so long that your ex has already started dating someone else. If you wait until this time or until he’s actually had time to meet and fall in love a rebound girl, it’s not a very good idea to try to get him back. As much as you want to be fair with your feelings, it isn’t just fair to him. It’s not fair to the other woman in his life neither. Oh, and of course, it rarely works. At the same time, there is a substantial risk of making his life more difficult. That is definitely not a way to treat someone you supposedly love. You have waited too long if injecting yourself back into his life would somehow harm him or anyone else.

You want to get your boyfriend back and you probably don’t have any interest in being “the other woman”, anyway. If you ex is in the company of another, the idea of putting forth a truly Herculean effort to get him back probably isn’t that exciting. This is exactly why I advocate prompt action.

What is then the basic rule of thumb? That it’s never too late to get your boyfriend back if you’re willing to put forth enough effort and if he hasn’t already met (or, heaven forbid) married someone else.

Along those line, the best strategy you can take is to commit yourself to take action as quickly as you possibly can. As time passes, it becomes harder and harder to get your man back. You can still do it in most cases, but that’s no excuse for letting any more sand work its way down the hourglass.

What you need to do now is to get a good plan and get busy putting forth an effort to get your ex back. It’s almost never too late, but it’s a lot easier when it’s early.

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Things You Need To Do Before Getting Your Ex Back

January 9, 2009 | 1 Comment

Dear Candice,

I can not get over my ex boyfriend of 3 1/2 years. He has put me through so much heart ache but I still love him more than anything in this entire world. I do not want to live without him but it seems that he just does not care, it’s as if all the time we put into us, was a waste. I want to get my boyfriend back, what can I do? – Tanja

Dear Tanja,

There are, in fact, a few things you really need to do before you even think about your first move toward getting your boyfriend back. It is about commitment and determination. Unless you have these bases covered, your efforts simply won’t pay off. Let’s look at the two initial keys to getting your boyfriend back.

The very first thing you need to do is to totally and seriously commit yourself to taking action. Sound incredibly simple and obvious? Perhaps, but it’s really quite important. Lack of action is the number one reason many relationships never get the second chances they deserve.

Emotional paralysis as some would call it. People are so addled over a break up that they don’t even feel like they have it in them to actually do anything. They wish their boyfriend would come back, but they just never get past the wishing stage.

That situation is understandable, though. A break up can be very emotionally draining. Guilt, anger, inadequacy, rejection, betrayal or even depression. If not all, one or two of these are the feelings you might be dealing at this very moment. Under those circumstances, it can be very hard to gather the energy you need to actually take action.

Still, we all know that daydreaming won’t get you back together with your ex. You have no choice but to get him back if you really want to get him back. You must find the power to commit yourself. You need to brace yourself to being proactive, again, if you really want to rebuild the relationship. Inoperativeness guarantees failure.

Next thing you need to do is to embark on a course of action that has good chances of getting your ex back. That means that you shouldn’t operate purely on instinct or “by the seat of your pants”. You need to seek out a quality catalog or blueprint that will spell out exactly what you need to do in order to get your ex boyfriend back.

You see Tanja, you might be a great person, but just like me you aren’t an expert on human relationships. Most of your friends and loved ones lack expertise, too. Instead of relying on questionable advice, It surely make sense to check out real recommendations from people who know the love game from core to crust.

Commitment and Determination to take action. Those are the two keys to getting a boyfriend back—tasks you must accomplish if you want to have a rebound relationship. A combination of a will to take serious action and a solid strategy based on a comprehensive understanding of what makes men tick and relationships work, you’ll be in the perfect position to get your ex boyfriend back.

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Escape Regret – A Strong Reason To Consider Trying To Get Your Ex Back

December 29, 2008 | 1 Comment

Dear Candice,

Been going out with my boyfriend for a year and broke up with him last week. I am not sure why I did this. We were both being crappy and fighting. I immediately regretted my decision. What shall I do? – Nikki

Dear Nikki,

I have heard so many stories about going through a break up only to regret at a later time for not trying to save the relationship, sad tale it is. When you break up with someone and later regret your decision, is there anything you can do to get him back? The answer is, yes!

If you know that you had something special and you felt as though the relationship was deserving of a second chance, then it’s worth trying to get him back. However, for some reason, people failed to listen to their heart and let the partnership die. The story is always a fable of regret, punctuated by wishes that something else had happened.

That certainly isn’t the situation you want to find yourself in. If you are not comfortable with the breakup and you don’t want to regret in the end, go try getting back together with your ex — it’s indeed a very strong reason to consider to get your ex back. If you feel like he’s special and that the relationship had potential to be something wonderful, you will undoubtedly regret not taking action in the long run.

Let me ask you, do you want to be that someone that reflects on a later time in your life wondering what might have happened if you would have followed through on your feelings? You don’t want to think about him decades from now, wishing you knew where he was, what he was doing, and what things might be like if you had picked up the phone back when your heart was screaming at you to take a second chance on love.

If you believe that breaking up with your ex was a mistake you have to stand up and step forward to save the relationship. There are a lot of people who went through break ups, but did so only after making a sincere and heartfelt attempt at a second chance. They might not have succeeded then, but they moved forward with a certain comfort as a result of making an effort and they found love again.

There are those who did not step forward, though… those who did not put forth an effort. They are those who have regrets. They chose to spend their days wondering about what might have happened if things went differently. They chose to live in the past rather than taking living in the present as an option. They have failed to take action when it was needed the most. You have an option not to be like them.

There’s no prettier than the ugliest days of a break up but having regrets. If you want him back, try to get him back. It surely is the best thing to do. If you don’t mind the break up and you’re relatively sure things wouldn’t have amounted too much with him in the long run, then it isn’t necessarily a good idea to try to revive your relationship. On the other hand, if you want your ex boyfriend back you owe it to yourself to take immediate and serious action in an effort to rebuild the relationship.

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