Take Charge Then Get Your Boyfriend Back

Dear Candice,

After 3 years I broke up with my boyfriend because I thought that he was holding me back from a lot of things. I love him dearly and now I really want him back into my life. What can I do to get him back? – Kris

Dear Kris,

What you can do is to take a stand to preserve your relationship. You don’t really have to force yourself to accept an undesirable breakup. The decision to get an ex boyfriend back can be a step toward taking control of one’s life. And if you want to surely control your life — take charge!

Some people run their own lives, others let life happen to them. That’s true on a variety of levels, but we often see it when it comes to relationships and, particularly, to break ups. Many women experience break ups and just live with the outcome — even when they really want the relationship would continue.

I’ve been through a lot of breakups too. I used to accept and instill on my mind that breakup happens. Until I decided to take charge. I’ve realized that many break ups don’t really need to be permanent. In fact, you could persuasively argue that almost all break ups are optional. Relationships experience difficult times for a variety of reasons but in most cases a little concentrated effort can overcome the obstacle that led to the relationship being sidetracked.

Yes, breakup happens all the time. There are, in fact, countless happy couples out there who have gone through break ups. However, they reunited and emerged stronger, with a more fulfilled partnership. Almost all strong relationships undergo tough times at some point.

So, you are currently going through an unwanted break up and your in doubt entertaining the notion of getting your ex boyfriend back. Well, the fact that you are thinking about getting him back might lead you to verge of a personal breakthrough. It’s definitely empowering to confront your lousy reality and then transform it into a wonderful future.

More often than not, what separates those amazing success stories from the numerous failed relationships that probably deserved a second chance, was not a matter of luck. Rebuilding a relationship takes one person who’s willing to wake up and make a decision to make things work.

Take charge – rebound relationships don’t happen on their own. A man decided to visit his ex girlfriend. A woman decided to call an ex boyfriend. Someone decided not to throw it all away. Someone decided that the partnership was special and that it was worth stepping forward and making a move to rebuild it. There is always someone involved, someone who has the the ability and means to meet situations effectively, thus taking meaningful action.

If you don’t want the break up and you are sure that the two of you should continue seeing one another, you have the opportunity to stand up and fix things. You can be the person who takes action for your relationship. You can take action to get your ex boyfriend back. You can take control and rebuild your special relationship.

Contrast that with the alternative. The relationship drifts away and you never get a chance to make it work. You decide to let life happen to you instead of taking charge. Now, I’ll leave this all up to you. Which option sounds more fulfilling? More empowering?