The Makings of An Unhappy Rebound Relationship

December 18, 2008 | By Candice | In Advice, Breakup, Relationship 

“don’t know that is always so empowering to get your ex back – sometimes there’s a good reason why they’re your EX!” — healthy_you.

Got this comment a couple of days ago. Yes, she may be right, it’s not all about getting your boyfriend back, at all.

When you consider rebuilding your relationship with your ex, you’ve got to know the signals of a future, unhappy rebound relationship. You may hit the jackpot, that dream relationship everyone hopes to have is yours again. He remained to be a supportive, sensitive partner who understands where you’re coming from. He’s a good listener who lightens your moments of fear and despair, while joining you in a good and much needed laugh and giggles. Your ex boyfriend stood by you, no matter what happened in the past. This relationship is characterized by a reciprocal caring and a positive outlook. This is a very lucky situation indeed, a good start down the road to a long and happy rebound relationship.

Life is ambiguous, as some would say. Full of complex and difficult problem. In one way or another, trouble is guaranteed to find you, before you actually go looking for it. That’s why most people are searching for some degree of personal happiness. Many people luckily found their happiness in an ethical manner with their special someone.

However, some may enter into a relationship wearing the proverbial rose colored glasses. They are those desperate for another human being to understand them and stand by them in times of trouble. They might even attribute worthy characteristics to an unworthy ex boyfriend. It’s easy to fall prey to a relationship when you’re lonely, but sooner or later, that’s bound for trouble. This is a the making for an unhappy rebound relationship.

Being emotionally needy will put you up with just about anything that individual wants to throw your way, for the sake of a false sense of emotional security. There’s definitely something wrong with this picture. The product of emotional desperation and a negative approach to life is always unhappy relationships.

So, can you exactly determine if it’s good or bad to get your ex back? Unhappy rebound relationships tend to evolve over time. That sweetheart of yesterday may turn into tomorrow’s nightmare. So, what are the telltale signs?

In most cases, unhappy rebound relationships begin with unhappy people. Let us say you are the one who’s optimist, hoping to ‘fix’ the partner with a negative outlook. While your ex boyfriend is negative person, he may be intelligent or good looking, but his negative attitude will eventually permeate the entire relationship. Try to recall how your ex responded to adversity.

Everyone becomes annoyed or discouraged every now and then. So, you shouldn’t base your conclusion on occasional ‘waking up at the wrong side of the bed’ days. However, when every adversity is met with negativity, whining and other self-pitying techniques, this is when you should seriously reevaluate rebuilding the relationship.

If this person is perfect for you in every other way, try reforming the behavior before you just move on to happier pastures. This should be frank talk. Talk about how negativity seems to color the relationship. You can try to manage example situations as they crop up. Counter the negative with a positive alternative.

No one deserves to suffer an unhappy relationship, particularly when there are plenty of people with a positive focus trying to rebuild one. If your efforts result in madness, without any real communication happening, your best option is to realize that some people actually enjoy being unhappy. Life is too short to waste years being unhappy, so why rebuild?

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  1. Conspirama on December 18th, 2008 8:23 pm

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