Three Important Rules To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Dear Candice,

I wan’t my boyfriend back and definitely will do anything to make it happen. What are the things that I should not do, so he won’t flip out on me? – Marge

Dear Marge,

There shouldn’t be a no-holds-barred affair if you are trying to rebuild your relationship. Yes, when making your decision, there are certain limits to consider. This is, in part, necessary to increase your odds of actually getting your ex boyfriend back.

If you feel that your relationship deserves a second chance, and now want to do everything in your power to get your ex boyfriend back, there are a few rules you should set for yourself prior to taking action. Just as importantly, though, following “rules” like these can insure that you’ll emerge from the project as a whole. You must be a fulfilled person who doesn’t feel as though that you somehow compromised your personal integrity.

The rule number one is to not let your fear govern your actions. More often than not, potentially awesome relationships die an ugly death, simply because both parties to the relationship were too afraid to take necessary action to reunite. They end up breaking up. Surely, there are fears of rejection that can get in the way. And some people are afraid to be vulnerable or to expose their heartfelt emotions. You definitely won’t get your ex back if you let your fears and worries get into you. Further, letting your fears control you may put you in a situation of great regret later.

The rule number two is to not change yourself for the sake of getting him back. As I’ve mentioned on my previous posts here, changing your physical appearance can do nothing, but connotes desperation. It is hard to resist allure of undergoing personal change in an effort to recapture a lost romance. if you think that there’s something about you encouraged the break up, changing that something should cure it… think again. This is definitely not the case. Because in reality, break ups rarely stem from just one thing and making superficial or artificial changes usually isn’t persuasive to the ex boyfriend, who is capable of seeing right through your actions. Further, making these changes will leave you feeling somewhat shallow and compromised. There is really no need for you to sell yourself out, to get your man back.

The rule number three is to retain your honesty. Faking, scheming, and telling farfetched lies just don’t work. If you really want to successfully get him back, you probably want to stay with him afterwards, right? The quickest way to get a boyfriend back and then lose him again is to revive the relationship based on lies or schemes. In most cases, deception doesn’t work. When luckily it does, it is usually a temporary fix that will later backfire. This is not the time to play “tricks” on him. Trying to get your boyfriend back with dishonest behavior offers additional blow back. It compromises your personal integrity and produces a great deal of potential shame and guilt. If your current plan involves stretching the truth, reconsider.

Following these three basic rules will get your ex boyfriend back. These rules will not just maximize your chances for success but also protect you from making critical errors on a personal level.