When Is The Best Time To Act To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back?

Dear Candice,

Just broke up with my ex. Now, I want him back. But I’m really uncomfortable to make a move right now. Shall I wait? How long? Weeks? Months? When is the best time to get an ex back? – Penelope Lovebottom.

Dear Penelope,

Many women do wait. Just like you, they are uncomfortable. More often than not, they are afraid to take action to get their ex back. They wait until things “settle down” or until “everyone cools off”. That might make some ‘prima facie’ sense, but a lot can happen during that waiting and none of it improves the prospects of rebuilding a relationship.

If you want to get your boyfriend back, the best time to act is now. Delay is a critical error. Those who wait to make a move to reunite with a lost love after a break up only damage their chances while increasing their suffering. If you are absolutely committed to the idea of getting him back in your life… now is time. Do not wait! Reasons?

Delay risks intervening complications. Every second you delay there is a chance that he will stumble upon a rebound woman who will make your life more difficult. That is one obvious complication, for instance, that can make it very difficult to get your man back. Your ability to get him back easily will be compromised considerably, when he starts to seriously date someone else. Depending on the nature of the relationship that develops, it might even persuade you to give up altogether. So, don’t wait any more.

Delay extends the agony. You definitely want him back. Of course, we can only assume that means you want him back as soon as possible. Now, there is nothing more logical than this — why wait when you know that every single day the two of you remain apart will be filled with worries, disappointment and suffering. So what you need to do is to act as quickly as you possibly can to begin rebuilding the relationship. There is no advantage to stalling in hopes of things somehow becoming easier or more comfortable.

Recent involvement is an asset. The longer you wait, the more memories of your good times and potential as a couple will fade in his memory. You may want to strike while the iron is hot, so to speak. He was interested in maintaining a relationship with you until the recent break up. That means he isn’t yet far removed from having fond feelings for you. If you wait, you risk seeing some of that fondness disappears. Let me remind you — those who snooze really do tend to lose.

Now, I’m going to end this analysis with another little cliché. “Out of sight, out of mind”. Think about it. If you do have intentions to get your ex back, don’t go out of his sight and don’t stay there if you’ve already drifted away a little bit. All indicators point to the same conclusion. If you want your ex boyfriend back, you should take immediate action. Use a good plan and carry it out as soon as possible.